Every year while growing up, my grandma would come up from Florida to spend a week with us during the Christmas holiday. Along with her giant green suitcase on roller-skate wheels (an innovation long before its time), she'd bring bourbon balls and boxes of home-made cookies. It was heaven. Mostly.
She also packed up plans—lots and lots of plans. The shoe-shopping plan was fantastic. My brothers and I loved the day-after-Christmas excursion to the mall for our annual footwear spree. Sneakers for the brothers, something girly for me--unless it was the '80s when Sebago campsides or docksiders were big. (Well, we all had to experiment.)
But the other plans ... suuuuuuuucked. Day two after Christmas was cleaning out the garage. Day three was the basement. Day four, the refrigerator. Day five, we may as well have been beating wool rugs with wooden spoons—or so it felt at the time. Our next-door neighbor even labeled her “the Drill Sargent.”
Let me clarify that we ADORED Grandma L, but to say she was a little Type A was like saying a shark was a little bit fish. She didn't sit still, and she bit those who did--with about 3,000 teeth.
One year, back when today's video was yesterday's cassette tape, we recorded some post-holiday activity. You heard laughter, silly banter about the latest Charlie's Angels' episode, and Grandma counting silverware.
“One, two ... J.J.! I mean Stephen! Shawn? Shawn! I'm trying to count, please. Please, honey, please … sigh … One, two, three, four … sigh ... J.J.! Steve! Stephen! Quiet! Shut that thing off for a minute. I'll give you a quarter, honey, please … One, two, three … sigh ...”
We were as hysterical in listening to that scratchy contraption as she was hellbent on ensuring no forks were accidentally chucked in the trash. She had her mission (Get work done!); we had ours (Have silly fun!).
It may have been the same Christmas that I recall seeing her round butt in the air as she bent over the orange family room rug that matched her curly hair. “I've been so busy I haven't had time to go to the bathroom!” she huffed, before bending back down to pick more fuzz off the carpet.
“What?!” I wanted to yell, but didn't dare speak out against the Sargent. “Who was telling her not to pee?! No one had a gun to her head making her pluck cat fur off the floor. Didn't she see she was her own worst enemy?!”
The answer was no. In her eyes, the perpetrator was the dirty floor, the messy garage, the pile of mending, the never-ending list of stuff that would continuously assault her sensibilities. But somehow, she stayed on top of it all, reminding everyone in the process: “Everything HAS a place, everything IN its place!”
And, 25 or so years later, my place, I've found, was in grandma's shadow. Yes, I had become my mother's mother. And I loved her little adage. I mean, I hated it. Loved it. Hated it. Loved it. Hated it. Who knows where I really stood on the issue, but I've been trying to live it ever since, butt in the air and all. In fact, I think of her every time I go up the steps and see fuzzies dotting the cream-colored carpet that was supposed to be beige to CAMOUFLAGE THE DIRT, PEOPLE!
So, yes, my confession, in case I haven't mentioned it before, is that I'm a little Type A trying to get my B on. But the trouble is that A is in my blood. Be it Nurture or Nature (probably both), I'm compelled to put things away until they're all in the right place. And with Stinker and Boss, things are never in their right place for more than 2 seconds.
Sometimes when they're napping together, a 50-50 shot, I lie to myself and bargain: “Fifteen minutes of cleaning, no more!” I chug some coffee, wind myself up and GO! I put toys in baskets, take the trash out, pick up leaves in the garage on the way out, scoop the cat litter on the way back in, decide to do laundry, head to the basement, forget why I was going to the basement, get annoyed, go back upstairs, realize I'm hungry, wonder what I can shovel in my cakehole in the next 2 minutes, pay bills while I'm shoveling, hear Stinker wake up, and marvel at why I'm tired all the time—and how Grandma managed to do it all before they even had TiVo!
And then it becomes clear when I think of her and her never-ending scurry mode: It must have been those bourbon balls!
Or, perhaps it was a little sweeter than that. Maybe it was all those boxes of home-made cookies.